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Dawn Elaine Bowie's avatar

The work you are doing seems great but . . . can you comment more on whether you are just following the pseudoscience trend of pathologizing distress and if not, how you ensure against it? (Honest question, really). Take a look at this post by Rachel Haack, if you don't mind, and speak to the concerns she raises. I'd genuinely like to hear about it. https://open.substack.com/pub/rachelhaack/p/why-everyones-cutting-everyone-off?r=22hm04&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web

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I'm curious, specifically how does the book encourage integration, mature and respectful dialogue between parents and their children? Who defines what "appropriate" means? Is it one-sided or does it encourage forgiveness and compassion for both parents and children? Pathologizing distress means rather than opportunities to mature, every struggle, difficulty, unpleasant or challenging interaction is cast as "trauma." It isn't. This is not to say trauma isn't real, it's just that the current pseudoscience of assuming that the point of life is to be happy and untroubled all the time is not helpful to growth toward maturity. And the solution of punishing those who cause harm isn't either. Yes, accountability matters, but our current methods of getting there simply do not work and the methods used by far too many in the therapeutic community are directly contradictory to principles of mature spirituality.

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