Do you want your community to know more about spiritual abuse?
Does your Catholic community or organization want to be more trauma-informed?
Are you looking for ways to help safeguard your community against spiritual abuse and abuse of conscience?
Do you want your community to better support survivors of abuse?
I offer in-person and online talks or trainings about spiritual abuse in the Catholic Church. In the past year:
I spoke for the Trappist’s General Chapter Meeting that they held in Assisi about spiritual abuse and abuse of conscience
Gave a presentation for Fr. Boniface Hick’s at the Institute for Ministry Formation at Saint Vincent College & Seminary
“Paul Fahey is a trusted source for matters on abuse of conscience. His presentation for spiritual directors through the Institute for Ministry Formation at Saint Vincent College & Seminary was an inspiring and vital contribution to our ongoing formation of spiritual directors. Paul provides meaningful concepts drawn from psychology and Catholic doctrine to assist ministers in reflecting on their practices in a way that will help secure proper boundaries to protect consciences. He is doing a great work in raising awareness so that our Church can rebuild trust that has been lost through abuse, help to heal those who have been harmed by abuse, and become a safer home for tender hearts in the future.”
- Fr. Boniface Hicks
Presented a three-week workshop about spiritual abuse for the Dominican Sisters of St Joseph in the UK
“As a religious sister, I found Paul’s spiritual abuse workshop an excellent and faith-filled resource. It helped me to root my understanding of the importance of safeguarding, which in my experience can often be talked of merely as a bureaucratic exercise, more thoroughly within the Church’s teaching on the dignity of the human person and the nature and mission of the religious life. This has given me new clarity and insight which I could put into practice not only in my community life but also in my apostolic work as a catechist.”
- Sr. Carino Hodder, OP
My article about spiritual abuse and abuse of conscience was used in the pastoral counseling course at Sacred Heart Major Seminary in Detroit, MI
“Paul Fahey’s writing on spiritual abuse is mandatory reading for my pastoral counseling students and with good reason: His clear and accurate writing effectively illuminates the complex nature of spiritual abuse, how to spot it, and how to respond effectively. Importantly, he also offers insight and compassion about the perpetrators, without minimizing the dramatic damage they often do to individuals and the church.”
- Dr. Tim Hogan
If you’re interested in having me speak or consult for your Catholic community or organization, contact me at:
paul@livingsolidarity.com


The work you are doing seems great but . . . can you comment more on whether you are just following the pseudoscience trend of pathologizing distress and if not, how you ensure against it? (Honest question, really). Take a look at this post by Rachel Haack, if you don't mind, and speak to the concerns she raises. I'd genuinely like to hear about it. https://open.substack.com/pub/rachelhaack/p/why-everyones-cutting-everyone-off?r=22hm04&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web
I'm curious, specifically how does the book encourage integration, mature and respectful dialogue between parents and their children? Who defines what "appropriate" means? Is it one-sided or does it encourage forgiveness and compassion for both parents and children? Pathologizing distress means rather than opportunities to mature, every struggle, difficulty, unpleasant or challenging interaction is cast as "trauma." It isn't. This is not to say trauma isn't real, it's just that the current pseudoscience of assuming that the point of life is to be happy and untroubled all the time is not helpful to growth toward maturity. And the solution of punishing those who cause harm isn't either. Yes, accountability matters, but our current methods of getting there simply do not work and the methods used by far too many in the therapeutic community are directly contradictory to principles of mature spirituality.